How the jewellery you choose can make your special day even more special
There’s that old English rhyme about what to wear on your wedding day: ‘something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, a sixpence in your shoe’. Many a bride adheres to the rhyme (though perhaps not the sixpence in your shoe). The overall sentiment of the rhyme relates to representation – symbols to the past (something old), the future (something new) and the present (something borrowed). Something blue? Well, some say that relates to fidelity and love, though it does rhyme suspiciously well with ‘new’…
Regardless of whether you do integrate these specific symbols into your wedding day or not, there is often a desire to include something that is special to you.
It may hold a meaning that perhaps only you know, or only you and your partner know.
This is a big day, a life experience, and a celebratory symbol in itself of the relationship you have with each other. It’s not surprising then, that we want to include things that we hold dear.
My wedding day was a laidback affair – ceremony in a registry office, friends and family lending a hand setting up the reception in a pub. And while I wasn’t too interested about taking cues from the English rhyme, I did want to include something in my outfit that was special to me, and that was my silver christening bracelet. I was something of a chubby child, and now my wrists are particularly weedy, and this – coupled with the fact that the bracelet is adjustable – meant that I could just about slip that bracelet on. It worked well with silver-thread detailing on the dress, but it had a special meaning to me – as well as to my parents. It was a symbol of not only the past (something old) but also the future – it’s a hand-me-down, an heirloom, that I’ll pass on.
And then there are the accessories to wear that have been found especially for the wedding but still have a special meaning, because they represent faces that perhaps aren’t in the crowd. This could be a chain or necklace, or tiny silver charms that you can have created from a photograph – a picture of you as a baby, perhaps, that could symbolise past and present. These photo charms are particularly sentimental if the photo is of someone who has passed away – it’s symbolic of the fact that they are, in a way, still with you.
Barbara Price wore a pair of gold-drop earrings that held special significance for her. She was married in 1984, and the earrings were a present from her parents for her 21st birthday. However, Barbara’s father died four months later, at the age of 59. She says,
‘When I got married, Dad wasn’t there to walk me down the aisle, but the earrings felt like I still had a piece of him.’
Then there are accessories that are just for the couple on their big day. You could have a personalised bracelet that only you and your partner know the message of. A date that has special meaning, for instance – such as the day of the proposal – or terms of endearment for each other (why not keep it secret that you’re really called ‘cupcake’ at home?). And then there are the symbols you want to keep more discreet by sewing into your wedding bouquet – a photo charm incorporated into a cluster of flowers holds a unique appeal.
On a day that’s played out in front of lots of people, and that’s usually been planned for months, it’s somehow heart-warming to bring in a small, discreet token that’s symbolic just for you.